Who: Documenting the adventures of a 36 year old, butch, pregnant lesbian mom.

Partner in crime:  My wife of many years.

When: Knocked up late September 2009

How: IUI (try #2) by a delightful local Reproductive Endocrinologist

Due: June 2010

Born: 12:13am on June 25th – 7 lbs, 8 oz. 20 inches long.

Birth Story:  Have at it.


  • On March 15, 2012, my mother passed away.
  • In July 2012, my wife and I started eating Paleo in order to get healthier.
12 Weeks:
Vegas 12 Weeks
35 Weeks Pregnant:
RR’s Birthday:
RR and Me, September 2012:
  1. I just found your blog recently and have loved checking in to see what’s going on. Thanks for sharing your experiences. Although we are still not pregnant (grrrrr..), my wife and I are in a similar situation. We are hoping that she too will be a 32 year old, butch, pregnant lesbian very soon. Of course, if it doesn’t happen in the next cycle she will be 33. 😉

  2. just thought i would stop by and say that i dig your blog. keep the great posts coming!!

  3. Thank you for writing this blog.

  4. I found your blog via CCB on Twitter — I loved reading your experiences. My wife and I are TTC and HOPEFUL that I (the lovely femme) will carry, however, it has been recommended that if we don’t succeed early on, that we TTC with her carrying (my lovely little ‘soft butch’).

    GOOD LUCK! Keep posting : )

  5. Thank you for this blog – it’s wonderfully written. I’m 20 weeks pregnant with our second and if my darling butch wife would have even considered carrying, I imagine that her pregnancy experiences would be similar to yours. I read and sometimes consider a comment, but I thought I’d first introduce myself. Thank you for sharing your lives with all of us!

  6. What a find! I love this blog project. Thank you.

  7. Love the blog – also fellow Butch who is contemplating being pregnant. Right now the wife is trying but i really want a biological child of my own. Anyhow, would love pic because more people need to see this and get comfortable with it and WTH do you wear is my concern ( for me )

    Thank you,

    J & M

    • Hey there. The clothes suck mostly if you have to ever look “nice” (business casual, etc.), but if you’re in a t-shirts and jeans place most of the time, it doesn’t have to be as awful if you just upgrade your t-shirt sizes. I’ll try to post some pics soon, now that I’m 8.5 months and looking as pregnant as possible. 🙂

      Keeping the end result in mind (popping out the kid) definitely takes some of the edge off of the wardrobe hate. Plus, knowing it’s temporary also helps.

      PS – Your website is fucking awesome.

  8. i saw your link on two bad moms and I can’t wait for you to meet Vegas! It’s so funny, right after. I looked down and thought oh, duh, this is something that happened to HER, not somethingthat happened to me!

    the pronouns rearrange themselves just like that.

    break your water,


  9. Oh Em Gee!!!! I am so glad I found your site! I just sent around my new site and a pal of mine sent me your blog! HURRAY!!!!! Why couldn’t I find you while I was obsessively Googling???? 🙂

    So glad I have found you now! 🙂

    Inky Chagrin

  10. this. is. amazing. i’ve been googling and searching for something like this and its fantastic to come upon it. thanks for leading the way and sharing your story.

    i’m doing a workshop at the butch voices conference this year and i’d love to talk with you about your experience. please email me if you can hbinsf@gmail.com.

    happy parenting!

  11. I found your blog last night as I searched for butch and pregnancy. I had spent the day angry because adoption is cost prohibitive in Colorado, our new home. I had never wanted to have a kid, primarily because I thought it would be too weird and I’d spend months being judged. But I found your blog, and a tumblr, and a few other things and realized, other butches have done this before! It’ll be weird, but I’m not the first.

    So thank you, just for sharing your story. I haven’t read it all yet, but it’s so helpful. I made an appointment with the fertility doctor so we can start this process in the next few months. I will also blog my story and hopefully learn a lot. In the end, we want a baby too bad to not do this. So, I’m joining the club at age 35!

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