A comment from the swimwear post made me think out loud about my own insecurities regarding leg shaving:
How many of you are leg non-shavers?
I’m a recent non-shaver. I know. You’d think by now I would have let my hairy freak flag fly way before now, but I stopped at the beginning of my pregnancy, and just never started back up.
Now, I’m not a hairless wonder, so my unshaven legs are obvious. I don’t have fine, blonde, sparse hairs that no one notices anyhow; I have dark, black, man-hairs. Rumor has it that eventually, time will turn them into thinner, lighter versions of themselves, so I will just have to wait and see. In the meantime, I’m finding myself incredibly self-conscious, especially wearing shorts around other shavers: during kiddo playtime with other kids, at the spray park, at music class, etc. When RR’s favorite thing is to stand at your legs and hold onto one of them, it’s hard to think that people don’t notice.
My wife doesn’t care, she says, and I believe her. She, however, is a hairless wonder and could go for years not shaving, and no one would notice. Not even her leg hairs.
I used to shave mostly because I was in a band with straight boys, and oftentimes, we’d have practices in the summer, and no one wants to wear pants all the time in Virginia during July. So my shaving routine usually surrounded band practices so that my mates wouldn’t judge. Well, especially that one, fashion-forward, drumming mate.
But now, with no one to judge (well, no one to judge AT me), I’m embracing the world of the non-shaving, but I’m having trouble shaking that other people a) notice, and b) care. It’s kind of like when I change into gym shorts at the gym and I’m wearing boxers. Are people noticing my underpants? And if so, do they really care? Probably not. And PS, stop looking at my underpants!
But I notice… but do I care? I might? Will I care when I’m 50 and I’m looking through RR’s baby pictures and the first thing I notice in the picture of us at the spray park are my legs, and not her tiny tookus in a two-piece?
I’ll need to eventually either a) stop caring or b) shave. I wonder which one…